“ If you are ready to break
patterns, face your
and work towards healthy
relationships ––
words are it “

Sara Kuburic

Existential therapist, author, and
creator of @Millennial.Therapist

The Origins
of You

None of us had a perfect childhood; we are all carrying around behaviors that don’t serve us — and may in fact be hurting us. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Our past might create our patterns, but we can change those patterns for the better…with the right tools.

The Origins of You, unlocks a healing process to help us understand our Family of Origin—the family and framework we grew up within — and examine what worked (and didn’t) in that system. Certain dysfunctions (or “wounds”) in that Family of Origin will manifest in our adult behaviors in surprising ways, from work challenges to interpersonal struggles. But the good news is: armed with the knowledge about our past, we can actually rewire our programming to meaningfully improve our relationships and our lives in the future.

It doesn’t matter whether you’ve been in therapy for decades, or whether therapy isn’t for you. It doesn’t matter if you had a great childhood, or a terrible one. You can create change and resolve things from the past that need your attention. Complete with guided introspection, personal experiences, client stories, frameworks for having difficult conversations, and worksheets to compliment each chapter, The Origins of You will teach you how to break family patterns and help you liberate the way you live and love.

What You Will Learn


Why you keep making the same mistakes in relationships.


How to break out of patterns in work, friendships, and life that hold you back.


What you need to do to forge a new path forward.

Praise for THE Origins Of You

“The Origins of You does a brilliant job of striking the balance of acknowledging the pain of the past without getting lost in blame. . . . This book is the book that everyone in your family should read.”

Julianne Hough

Emmy Award winner, dancer, actor, and entrepreneur

“The Origins of You offers us a promise: our family of origin, no matter how damaged it might have been, does not determine our destiny. With empathy and wisdom, Vienna Pharaon explains how our past creates our patterns – patterns we’re still living out today – and how we can shift those habits to create a new, healthier path for ourselves. Vienna’s book is a gift.”

Nedra Glover Tawwab

author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace

“The Origins of You is a powerful guide to know ourselves and change our relationships. Vienna has provided the knowledge we need to deeply improve our lives. This book is for anyone who is serious about personal growth and is ready for a big change.”

Yung Pueblo

author of Clarity & Connection

“The Origins of You forces us to accept that you can’t outrun your past. Vienna is a skilled family therapist who uses her expertise, compassionate voice, and engaging storytelling to help you discover what to do when our early life experiences are no longer serving you. This is the book for anyone who has ever wondered, Why am I like this and what can I do about it?”

Whitney Goodman

LMFT, author of Toxic Positivity

Meet Vienna

Vienna Pharaon is a licensed marriage and family therapist and one of New York City’s most sought-after relationship therapists. She has practiced therapy for more than fifteen years and is the founder of the group practice Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy.

She received her master of science in marriage and family therapy from Northwestern University, and trained extensively at The Family Institute, Bette D. Harris Family & Child Clinic. Pharaon has been featured in The Economist, Vice, and Motherly, and has led workshops for Peloton and Netflix, among others.

Vienna is the creator of @mindfulMFT on Instagram where she’s helping over 600K people around the world heal their wounds.

With love
Vienna Pharaon

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